Total Time: 1 h 40 min

Loving parents around the world with a desire to improve their relationship with their children.
• Parents who wants to embrace a new set of values based on the assumption that families must be built      
  on dignity between parent and child.
• Parents with teenagers, terrible twos... who need a new set of tools in order to relate to their children.

• A new, amazingly, simple, and absolutely vital approach to raising children.
• Easy to understand tools and numerous examples that you can quickly apply to your own family.
• Jesper's in-depth wisdom having worked with children and their parents for 40 years.
• Refreshing, honest and practical advise on how to be a better role model for your child, and a better spouse for
  your partner, simply by learning how to say "No" to others and "Yes" to yourself.  
 



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 I very much enjoyed the workshop. I am a fan of Jesper Juuls and I enjoy his insights. I also liked the films with the children in between. 
Vanessa, Thailand
 
I would like to say that I consider Jesper Juul to be one of the most important teachers of our time. I am working as a counselor/ coach with parents and I am a firm believer in his ideas and insights! I read most of his books.
The workshop tought me to accept that conflict is a normal aspect of growing and developing (of children and parents) because there is an eternal conflict between cooperation and integrity. I agree with Jesper Juul that parents should ask themselves the question what kind of relation they would like to have with their children? What do we want to teach them, how do we help them develop and grow in this live? Do we want or children to be only obedient or would we like to have children who are emotionally healthy and capable to say ' no' with respect to themselves and others? What kind of examples are we giving them as parents? How do we say 'no' to our children? What do they really need?  I learned from the workshop of Jesper Juul that being consequent is less important than being consistent with your own values, integrity and limits!! Now saying yes or no is much easier and comes more naturally! By doing this, by being this way I know I am being a responsible, positive and healthy rolemodel for my two daughters of 8 and 10 years. 
Katja, Netherlands
 
I've read books by Jesper Juul and this workshop makes his texts more accessible and understandable.
Morten Christiansen, Norway
 
Jesper Juul's "The art of saying NO! with a good conscience” workshop which I watched at Zen TV was indeed an enlightening experience. Mr Juul's perspective on this subject is unique in terms of not giving recepies but rather provide understanding of the process in parent-child relationship. Understanding of that process gives parents opportunities to decide for themselves how to address this (I must say, very, very important) issue in accordance to their personal and family values. I feel that this workshop is of a great value to all parents interested in wellbeing of their family. I also must commend the form of workshop's presentation - the film was easy and fun to watch and the content was easy to follow and understand.
Sandra, Croatia

 Jesper Juul has a very simple way of explaining how relatioships with our children can be damaged inadvertently and the examples given in the workshop demostrate what happens when we are just not thinking through about the effect of what we say (and what we don't say!). Putting all this into practice requires a lot of effort for those of us brought up with the old ways of upbringing, and knowing better now as adults are trying to escape them, which is why I have gone back to watch this workshop again and again and made notes to self on the things that I have most difficulty with. It has helped me enormously.
Maria, Cyprus
 

Hearing someone talk confidently and provide simple real-life examples as parental guidance - in the same time managing to convince you to change your whole view of your children - is a relief for a confused modern parent. And it saves you reading a whole book (or many).

Svetlana, Bulgaria

 

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VIDEO: The transforming online video workshop "The art of saying NO! 21 loving ways to say no to your child with a good conscience"

Instant access to this workshop about the art of saying no to your child - lead by acclaimed Scandinavian familytherapist Jesper Juul. Watch the workshop from any computer, mobile or tablet, as often as you like, whenever you like.

AUDIO: Easy to download audiofile!

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I got married for the first time in 1971 and had our son Nicolai in 1973. I have learned so much from him over the years. In 1991 I married Suzana, who has her roots in Croatia, and, among other good things, that has led to me spending almost 3 months a year on volunteer work as well as serving as a leadership and development consultant for local non-governmental organizations.

In January 2004 I stepped back from my position as Managing and Clinical Director of The Kempler Institute of Scandinavia in order to secure a harmonic shift of generations. This gave me an opportunity to focus on my newest project: Family Lab. At Jesper Juul's Family Lab International (FLI) professionals and parents work together to figure out how to transform emotional love and comitment into loving behaviour.

My question has always been:
"Do we want to avoid conflicts, and have peace and quiet every day?
Or do we want children that are healthy, mentally healthy and psychosocially capable when they turn eighteen, nineteen, twenty?"

There is no doubt in my mind that I would prefer the last - it is not only more sensible for the individual child, but also for the parents, and our society.

So how does one accomplish this? Well, my experience has taught me that it starts with us learning how to say "No!" to others, in order to say "Yes!" to ourselves. And that is what this workshop is all about.

Hope you enjoy it! 

About Jesper Juul

Jesper Juul is an internationally renowned public speaker, author, educator, and family therapist with over 40 years of experience and an active presence in more than 15 countries around the globe. 
 
For many, Jesper is best known as the author of “Your competent child” (1995) where he summarized his first 25 years of experience working with families.  In this seminal work, Jesper challenged many major assumptions of traditional developmental psychology as well as the dominating models and methods of pedagogy and childrearing.
 
His findings have since been confirmed by both neuroscience and relational psychology and form the basis for a new paradigm in family therapy and the study of the interaction between children, youth, and adults. 
 
Jesper Juul has developed a new perspective on how to see children and explains the best methods for a parent to support the development and socialization of their children.  His main objectives are to inspire, help, and support parents and professionals in order to ensure that new generations of children grow up with a maximum of social and mental health.
 
In 2007 Jesper Juul founded Family-lab International – an organization offering seminars, lectures, workshops, and counseling to parents and families, public organizations, as well as private enterprises.  

 

Any parent knows that sometimes (rather, really often) we need to say "No" to our children, yet, many of us feel guilty doing so and instead throw ourselves into long negotiations that we tend to loose. So, how exactly does one say "No" without remorse? 

Well the question should really be:
Do we want to avoid conflicts, and have peace and quiet every day?
Or do we want children that are mentally healthy and psychosocially capable when they turn eighteen?

Many of us grew up with parents being the "authority" - they told us what to do and it was our role to obey them. Today, we seem to have turned this around to a constant "Yes" instead in order to maintain the family peace and avoid conflicts when we finally meet our children after a long day or week.
 
But a constant "Yes" will eventually take a toll on your children...yourself...and your relationship. By always saying “Yes” to others you are not only neglecting yourself, you are also setting an example for your children of how they should interact with others. And is that really what you intended to do? 
 
Children do as we do - not as we say!
Education takes place in between the lines.

The first step to saying "No" with a good conscience is to think of it as a "Yes" to yourself. And that this is mutually benficial to yourself and your child. But this is all easier said than done. Which is why we teamed up with internationally acclaimed family therapist, Jesper Juul, in order to produce this online-video-workshop. Through this workshop you will be able to tab into Jesper's 40 years of experience counseling families and individuals in over 15 countries.
 
Now you can enjoy Jesper's wisdom from the comfort of your own home - whenver it suits your hectic schedule - and from what ever device you chose to watch it on (computer, mobile or tablet)...as often as you need it.
 
Almost 2 hours of valuable insights, challenging many major assumptions of traditional developmental psychology as well as the dominating models and methods of pedagogy and childrearing. Jesper has taught the art of saying “No” to thousands, helping them restore balance to their relationships with their children and spouces - now it is your turn!
 
How would your relationship to your partner change with an improved mood? 
What would your children think about your increased patience?

  INTRO: The habit of saying yes! 

  INTRO: Equal dignity - no matter age! 

  INTRO: I must say no to you to say yes to me! 

1:  It feels as if my child is constantly fighting me when I say no. 

2:  If I keep saying no will my child take after me? 

3:  If I keep saying no will my child take after me? )

4:  To me “curling my children” is just a way of saying I love them.

5:  Should I say no even if I’m not sure? 

6:  Why should I say no to giving my child what he wants? 

7:  I often find myself saying yes to a toy, just to avoid a conflict...

8:  Sometimes I say no without having thought it through... 

9:  I have a hard time setting boundaries... 

10: We keep arguing about chores with our children... 

11: I sometimes feel I haven't put enough into raising my children...

12: I often say yes when I mean to say no... 

13I always feel guilty saying no... 

14: I get so frustrated when my children don't cooperate... 

15Saying no to teenagers... 

16: Why is there such a focus on tweens now? 

17How do I say no to my autonomous child? 

18Is it important that we as parents, say no as a team? 

19: I feel uncomfortable acting the role of a parent... 

20: My wife has a hard time saying no to the kids... 

21: Is there a difference between saying no to your children and


your partner? 

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I've read several of Jesper Juuls books and I was always impressed by his thoughts and theories, which are also based on recent researches of neurosciensce. I feel  very close to my feelings and thoughts his way of relating to other people and specially to children; above all the significant teaching that respect and equal dignity must be given also to children who are to be considered persons just at birth. In this vision it's just easier to talk about boundaries and limits when you relate to children because it means that you have to set your own boundaries, express very clearly who you are, what you like and want and what you don't. This is a fundamental model for your children who can learn who you are and consequently to respect you as a person just as you respect him. This is empaty and this is what is most important in education: your behaviour as example.  This is the most important thing I learned by this wonderful workshop: I can respect my child without being permissive nor authoritarian simply treating him as I would like to be trated by others. What is most important is your relationship, music and words, not only teachings but above all living with children a respectful and empathic relationship made of personal responsibility and clear language. I've read several of his books and I was always impressed by his thoughts and theories, which are also based on recent researches of neurosciensce.  I feel very close to my feelings and thoughts his way of relating to other people and specially to children; above all the significant teaching that respect and equal dignity must be given also to children who are to be considered persons just at birth. In this vision it's just easier to talk about boundaries and limits when you relate to children because it means that you have to set your own boundaries, express very clearly who you are, what you like and want and what you don't. This is a fundamental model for your children who can learn who you are and consequently to respect you as a person just as you respect him. This is empaty and this is what is most important in education: your behaviour as example.  This is the most important thing I learned by this wonderful workshop: I can respect my child without being permissive nor authoritarian simply treating him as I would like to be trated by others. What is most important is your relationship, music and words, not only teachings but above all living with children a respectful and empathic relationship made of personal responsibility and clear language.
Alessandra, Italy

I really enjoyed watching it. I'm from Germany and it was for me a good posibility to listen to Jesper in English. Theres is nothing similar  available in "german language" so I decided to try the english version and I didn't regret it :-) it's allways impressing to listen to him.I really enjoyed watching the workshop. I'm from Germany and it was for me a good posibility to listen to Jesper in English. Theres is nothing similar available in "german language" so I decided to try the english version and I didn't regret it :-) It's allways impressing to listen to him.
Gabriele, Germany

I think ZenTv is fantastic giving me the oppertunity to purchase an inspiring lecture by Jesper Juul, The art of saying NO! The best thing is that I get access to Jespers fantastic inspiring clever words when I want, in my computer. The fact that I can plan how much time I have myself and that I can watch it whenever I want. To fill myself with life quality! Thanks for a great product!
Eva, Sweden

Books by Jesper Juul

Familietid

Fat det nu forældre!

Samtaler med forældre

Din kompetente familie

Kunsten at sige nej!

Familier med kronisk syge børn

Pædagogisk relationskompetence

SMIL! vi skal spise

Dit kompetente barn

Bonusforældre

 

 

Empati

Livet i familien

Her er jeg! Hvem er du?

Rom for familien

Men fatta då! (Sweden)

Samtaler med foreldre (Norway)

Din kompetente familie (Norway) - Din kompetenta familj (Sweden) - Die kompetente familie (Germany) - Twoja Kompetentna Rodzina (Poland)

Kunsten å si nei med god samvittighet (Norway) - Konsten att säga nej med gott samvete (Sweden) - Znati reci ’ne’ mirne savjesti (Croatia) - Su hijo, una persona competente (Spain) - Ei ütlemise kunst (Estonia)

Her er jeg! Hvem er du? (Norway) - Här är jag! Vem är du? (Sweden) - Ovo sam ja! Tko si ti? (Croatia) - To sem jaz! Kdo si pa ti? (Slovenia) - Eccomi! Tu chi sei? (Italy) - Dat vind ik! Wat vind jij? (Netherlands)

Livet i familjen (Norway) - Livet i familjen (Sweden) - Život u obitelji (Croatia) - Gezinsleven (Netherlands)

Ditt kompetente barn (Norway) - Ditt kompetenta barn (Sweden) - Dein kompetentes Kind (Germany) - Vase kompetentno dijete (Croatia) - Kompetentni otrok (Slovenia) - Il Bambino È competente (Italy) - Uw capabele kind (Netherlands) - Twoje Kompetentne Dziecko (Poland) - Viisas Lapsesi (Finland) - Sinu tark laps (Estonia) - Your competent child (UK & USA) - Sua Criança Competente (Brazil)

Smil – vi skal spise (Norway) - Nu ska vi äta (Sweden) - Was gibt's heute? (Germany) - Hura! Idemo jesti! (Croatia) -

Familier med kronisk syke barn (Norway) - Unser Kind ist chronisch krank (Germany) - Obitelji s kronicno bolesnom djecom (Croatia)

Bonusforeldre (Norway) - Bonusföräldrar (Sweden) - Bonuseltern (Germany)

Prostor za obitelj (Croatia)

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For over 40 years, his wisdom and commitment have helped thousands of parents to support the development and socialization of their children - now it is your turn.

An almost 2-hour long online video course that teaches you how to say NO! to you child in a loving way and with a good conscience.

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Packed with Jesper Juul's in-depth knowledge about how to restore balance to your relationship with your children and spouces.